There’s a common theme that appears in many Korean dramas. An isolated female protagonist encounters a charming male character, as if by fate. He turns her life upside-down by dismantling the lifestyle that she has created, (usually due to a specific traumatic incident from the past), and brings her “back into the world”.
At times, I consider aspects of my life to be straight out of a K-drama. I’m definitely someone who can check off the box for “isolated female protagonist”. Lately I’ve been questioning my tendency to spend most of my time alone. It’s not something that happened out of the blue. It was gradual, painful, and then extremely numbing. It was a way for me to guarantee that I wouldn’t get hurt by others. It was something that I absolutely needed. However, it’s no longer helpful.
Since college ended, it’s become increasingly more difficult to meet people and rebuild relationships. Those within my age range are establishing themselves in their careers and getting married. While it hasn’t felt good to not be at the same point in life, I doubt that I’d be any happier if I were. A benefit of isolation is that it’s allowed me to become increasing more accepting of myself in a way that I never was, and knowing that makes me optimistic about the future.
I’m not asking for a spontaneous, life-altering moment with a stranger on the street. I’ve grown a lot over the past few years and I’m aware that I don’t need anyone to change things for me. I’m capable of doing it myself, and things will happen when the time is right, because I’ve regained the power of being able to believe in and trust myself again.
I know that there are others in the world who are experiencing similar situations for different reasoning. It can be tough to go through, but I do believe that it’s possible to overcome almost any situation with time. Rather than brooding over what has happened, what should have happened, or what could happen, I’m rediscovering what it means to be present, and experiencing life simply as it is. I encourage those struggling to do the same.
There are things constantly happening around us. It’s not really important to analyze the significance of each individual instance, but rather, to just exist in what’s occurring. By doing so, you’re allowing yourself to be truly alive.